Nothing moves the world better, at least with more joy and elegance, than a good love story. Why? What happens when two people fall in love, other than what we all know too well as the cliche stuff?
When the whirlwind of romance dies down, when the bloom fades from the rose, the fragrance remains, the form is still a rose and the substance is roseness. A rose will never be a dandelion. So also is true love.
Love at its center includes acceptance of "what is". When we love another, we move our boundaries to include another's full expression of life, and we move our personal views outside of our protective shell. Sometimes this inclusion can be a mistake. We find areas with our beloved that we may fear to tread.Or we come to see that these are places from which to grow together.
Years ago I found that my husband spoke of wild and crazy adventure. Some of it was already in his past and some of it was in his dreams. Now, thirty years later, some of those dreams we fulfilled together and some were disasters. After many years my boundaries (fears and objections) are much more secure. I have learned to listen in a different way.
Marriage then can become an opportunity to listen to the world. It is an exercise in hearing the universe by opening to one person. It is strengthening some boundaries and loosening others. That's what I love about love: play in life with a full deck and a full keyboard.
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