Back to the strange and intriguing TV show. The host said something like: "if you can survive the wedding; you can survive your marriage". Would that a lifetime with one person were as simple and problem free as most weddings.
Certainly the couple who suffered two deaths and a serious illness of three very close relatives in one week have been through a tremendous suffering together, but that wedding story is an exception, very far from the rule.
I met up with one of my wedding couples last weekend and there were still details to decide, including discussions of different ways between them of looking at a few aspects of the ceremony. But they knew how to compromise, to consider both sides and each "gave in" on a variety of small items that allowed the final game plan to start to fall into place. The is the rule, NOT the exception.
If you're on your way to a wedding ( a marriage) and you want to know what your marriage will be like, just look at couples you admire (maybe your own parents; maybe not). How do they work things out? Ask them what were the toughest things they had to face with each other over the long years and what did they do? The wedding itself is a cakewalk compared to a marriage.
Once again, TV oversimplifies.
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