Your wedding ceremony is a performance. It is a styled, orchestrated and choreographed 20 minute performance that will produce lasting memories, some of which will be captured on video, but certainly in still photography.
This is why a good, well-organized wedding rehearsal is so important. In my work as an officiant, I make it my job to get everyone's name down and particularly to note which of the wedding party is most reliable to pick up any loose ends. This is often the maid of honor or a mother. But just to break stereotype, it can be the groom's best friend, the former roommate, all of 28 who has the skills to run the US Mint.
In the Celebrant's world, we call this person the TFM (trusted family member). The TFM has a cell phone that's always on, from midnight the night before the wedding and all day long up to the minute before it all starts. This TFM has 360 degree radar and knows where every somebody and every nobody is related to this wedding. This person is completely "can-do", wears every hat, takes charge without equivocating, and could get a lost spaceship back to earth if called upon. The TFM is the Steven Speilberg of the final wedding production.
Planning a wedding? Who is your TFM? He or she is your lifeline to relax when the last minute stuff starts to spin.
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