At the risk of sounding like a harpy, here goes another chance to bring about an inner calm. It's so delicious and so necessary for a successful wedding, it bears repeating.
There are two kinds of time--clock time, which brings a degree of order to our universe, and psychological time, which brings for the most part a degree of chaos to the same universe. Here I am addressing the latter.
As a woman, I have spent a number of years worrying. ( I qualify this by gender because men seem to worry less, or maybe they express their needs more quickly). I have concluded that worry is a useless preoccupation; it affects nothing and no one in any positive way. Nagging, on the other hand, affects everyone, including the nagger. Some women nag internally and some externally, but either way it diminishes well-being and achieves no peaceful effect.
Sometimes, in the wake of knowing something will not happen with or without our worry or nagging, we have to let go. Letting go is more important than eating ourselves alive with anxiety. I worked with a bride several years ago who was deeply anxious that her outdoor wedding was going to be moved indoors (threat of rain and temperatures way too cool for the original plan). Once the decision was made, she spent the wedding day letting go. By 6 PM when the ceremony started, she was the most radiantly beautiful bride I had ever seen. Even her photographs showed a genuine peace, a glow I had not seen in the weeks leading up to the wedding.
Beauty comes from within first. It's visible. Feeling good and looking good go hand in hand. Psychological time is within our control. Seize the opportunity.
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